Answer

A smart person would try to do, what satisfies both parents. It’s up to you to use your wisdom, to figure out a way to please both.

Basically you have to go into priority kind of phase. You start with first looking what Allah’s view of what the action is, so you first apply sharia, to see where does shari’ stand in that case. Once you find that out, you chose the one that Sharia accepts.

However, if both are religiously valid, then you give the one that has priority over the other. And in any case, the decision that you chose, you must make sure you don’t hurt any of your parents. And it’s not necessary to say what you have done, if you know it hurts your parent. So you have to try to use all the means without breaking the shari law, in order to avoid hurting your parents.

If one doesn’t get hurt, but does not allow you to do it, and the other does get hurt. Then obviously you try to minimize the pain by not doing the action that hurts any of your parents. This is the way you should look at it.